This week, we are supporting kids to tell us about unwanted touching.
A couple of weeks ago, we talked about the kinds of touch that might give us a ‘yes’ or a ‘no’ feeling. In that post, we helped children understand that some kinds of touch can give us a ‘yes’ feeling, like patting a friendly cat, or having a gentle hand massage. Other kinds of touch can give us a ‘no’ feeling, like hitting, punching, biting, or being hugged when you don’t want it.
Some touch might even start out as a ‘yes’ feeling and then change to a ‘no’ feeling, like when you swing too high on a swing, or when a nice massage gets too hard.
Kids need to know what to do if they get a ‘no’ feeling or a ‘yes and no’ feeling about any touch. This can help prevent abuse, but can also help with bullying or other kinds of negative experiences.
While you are using the ‘yes’ feeling and ‘no’ feeling language, ask your child what they think they could do if they get a ‘no’ feeling about any touch. Make sure that they know the three steps they should follow:
This week’s activity:
Ruth Davy-Fundraising Manager, HELP Auckland