Do Something HELPful - May 2021
Small actions can make a big difference, so HELP Auckland is challenging Aucklanders to Do Something HELPful during the month of May and raise vital funds for HELP Auckland.
Participants pledge to Do Something HELPful during May - for themselves, their family, workplace, community or environment. They ask friends and whānau and sponsor them through an online funding platform - and raise vital funds for HELP Auckland.
1 in 4 girls and 1 in 7 boys may be sexually abused by adulthood. It’s time to do something about it - sign up to the Do Something HELPful challenge in May and HELP protect future generations from sexual abuse.
To be launched at our HELP & Soul event May 4th. Sign up now and you could win tickets to this event with Holly Smith and Tayla Alexander performing.
6pm to 8.30pm
An evening to remember in a stunning venue, light opera and modern soul music that will dazzle you and all for a great cause.
Venue: Ray Freedman Arts Centre, EGGS, Silver Road, Epsom
Entertainment: Holly Smith is one of our finest soul singers and Tayla Alexander is an award-winning young opera singer.
Wine, craft beer and canapes provided
Tickets: $65 pp or $120 for two. (You will receive a receipt and your ticket(s) within a week of booking).
Funds raised support survivors of sexual abuse to heal and help prevent sexual abuse.
For more information email Ruth at email@example.com
Sexual Violence Legislation to once again go before Parliament. We encourage all to approach their MPs in support of this legislation giving survivors a fairer trial. Opinion supplied
Paulette Benton-Greig, ex Help Auckland staff. The bill currently before Parliament will help complainants “feel more at ease, give clearer and better evidence, and be less harmed by the process”. Click here to read more.
Wellington Girls’ College student Lauren Hardie was recently sent home to change her clothes after endangering male teachers with her tank top. In much the same way as I threatened men and boys about 30 years ago, the 17-year-old dared to wear a top showing a bit of flesh, and was shamed for it. The difference between what happened to Lauren and me is she and her mates didn’t stand for it, and the school did the right thing. Eventually.
This story has an excellent video of students at the school talking about body shaming and dress coding. They express how they did not accept this! Click here to read the story and view the video. We encourage you to share this on your social media!
Postponed until May 4th
6pm to 8.30pm
An evening to remember in a stunning venue, light opera that will dazzle you and all for a great cause.
Entertainment: Tayla Alexander is an award-winning young opera singer.
Wine, craft beer and canapes provided
Tickets: $65 pp or $120 for two. (You will receive a receipt which is your ticket to the event).
Funds raised support survivors of sexual abuse to heal and help prevent sexual abuse. Buy tickets below or scan this QR code.
After the challenges of COVID we finally managed to host our annual fundraiser 'Colour Me Purple'. Close to 100 people attended and it was a great night with Ali Mau as MC, The Fan Brigade comedy duo and Jan Hellrieger, singer and writer.
Special thanks goes to our sponsors and auction suppliers Gilmours Mt Roskill, Jo Thompson our marvelous volunteer caterer, Ripe Deli, Farrah’s and Countdown Mt Eden. Wine and craft beer from Tantalus Estate Vineyard, Craggy Range, Soho wines, Planet Wine, Constellation Brands and The Garage Project. The flowers were done by Mt Eden Roses Florist.
The Cottage at 108 the Pah and Mazda Auckland who supplied the main raffle prizes.
If you get most of your information about sex crimes from watching international television, you might have been shocked to hear that a 26-year-old Christchurch man just had his rape conviction squashed on the basis of warm and friendly text messages from the 13-year-old girl he was originally convicted of raping.
Many of us would expect New Zealand to have a statutory rape law, meaning that consent could not be argued if the victim was under 16 years of age. But no such law exists here.
The brutal reality of our current justice system is that the consequences for raping a child are much less than for raping an adult. While there are particular laws against sexual connection with a person under 16 or under 12, these carry much shorter sentences than a conviction for sexual violation such as rape. Click on image below for the full story
Kathryn McPhillips, Executive Director and Clinical Psychologist, addresses about how talking with a specialist counsellor who can guide you through the process of addressing the impacts of sexual abuse or assault, can assist you to moderate strong feelings, understand yourself, and re-process memories of the experience.
To watch the video click here.
Thanks to our 21 runners and walkers at the Auckland Marathon we raised over $10,000. This is amazing and we are so grateful. Special thanks to Grace Kukutai and her team who raised $5,000. If you would like to help us with events like this contact supporthelp!helpauckland.org.nz
Two more videos on how to keep our children safe. Feel free to send these onto your communities. These are the last two videos of this series and all well worth watching. Click on photographs to view these videos.
HELP's Kathryn McPhillips continues this series on keeping young children safer, with 3 skills to teach them. They are never responsible for keeping themselves safe from abuse, but no matter what you do, risk still exists. These skills can help.
Click here to view video.
Kathryn McPhillips, Executive Director and Clinical Pysychologist, talks about how to keep our children safer when blending familes. She talks to the reasons why children can be at risk in blended families and what you can do to prevent sexual abuse in this situation. Click here to view the video.
Any talk of sexual abuse can be distressing, so if you need support, phone us on 0800 6231700, 24/7.
Kathryn McPhillips, Executive Director and Clinical Psychologist, talks about how to keep our children safer by building their resilience, giving them the skills from as young as 3 years to keep safer, and how to create a safer home environment.
Click here to view video.
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Understanding grooming is critical to stopping sexual abuse before it starts. Kathryn outlines how it happens, what you might see, and how you can disrupt it. Any talk of sexual abuse can be distressing, so if you need support, phone us on 0800 6231700 24/7
Click here to watch the video
Singer songwriter Sonny Southon releases her second single ‘No Means No’ from her soon to be released EP Movin On. She has kindly given us this song to raise vital funds. We will send you a link to the song once you donate $10 or more.
Her first new studio recording in more than two decades, it touches on rock, electronica and RnB while infused with a Balearic vibe that’s hard to pigeonhole. Sonny has created an alternative record with a strong, underlying pop sensibility. 'No Means No' is a clarion call to respect sexual boundaries.
Sonny is a woman with a past as colourful and engaging as her music. From a childhood steeped in sound, she sang alongside her band-leading father before leaving for Sydney to become a professional songwriter. This was only the first step on an odyssey that would see her settle in London, sign to Warner Chappell Music Publishing UK and Virgin Records offshoot Siren as a successful solo recording artist. She sold over 100,000 records as well as sing alongside luminaries as varied as Duran Duran, Bryan Ferry and Bob Geldof.
Sonny finally decided to return home to NZ shores in 2008, after a sojourn in Los Angeles and a final return to London. She has successfully found a path alongside music, teaching yoga before once again feeling the lure of the recording studio. From this has spawned her EP Movin On, the fruits of a co-production collaboration with producer Lake South.
2020 is the year to discover this re-emerging talent: both as a compelling recording artist and a naturally charismatic live performer with one of the most unique voices in New Zealand music.
If you are interested.........................why do so many survivors blame themselves following sexual abuse or assault. Katherine McPhillips, Executive Director and Clinical Psychologist, gives another excellent talk on why people should not buy into victim blaming, why childhood abuse makes people more prone to self blame, why survivors often get confused or feel shame. Only YES means YES and only adults can give consent. Click here to view the video.
#Yesmeansyes #notovictimblaming #sexualabusesurvivors
If you're interested............................
Kathryn McPhillips, Executive Director and Clinical Psychologist, talks about a common question asked by people and the survivor "Why didn't she fight back?'. There are many factors that contribute here. Kathryn gives a very insightful response. Well worth listening to. #sexualabuse #sexualassault #survivorblaming
More questions for Kathryn email firstname.lastname@example.org
Kathryn McPhillips, Clinical Psychologist and Executive Director of HELP Auckland, answers your questions. Today's question is "Why does it cut so deep?". As this is complex and different for each person we have given contact details and links to two poems which may help.
Send your questions to email@example.com
If you need to talk to someone, phone 0800 623 1700, 24/7.
"If you are Interested" starting on Wednesday 8th April Kathryn McPhillips, Help Auckland's Executive Director and Clinical Psychologist, will be answering any questions that you may have about our services or just general advice on sexual abuse and sexual assault.
It is helpful for survivors and to end sexual violence, if people know more about it. But not everyone wants to know right now, so, just if you’re interested, we are going to be answering some common questions, and letting you know some things that survivors want you to know.
Recovery from the impacts of sexual violence are harmed or helped by the actions and attitudes of the people around you. So even if its happened, you can still make a difference.
#justask #questionsanswered #ifyouareinterested #advice #sexualabuseawareness
Please send us your questions to firstname.lastname@example.org before Midnight each Monday.
Ruth Davy-Fundraising Manager, HELP Auckland